Monday, April 18, 2011

Family Concerns About the Alcohol Addicted Relative

Hello Friends,

Wallace Mason (1952-2011):  Husband, father, grandfather, son, brother, uncle, brother-in-law, best friend.  Talented self-employed carpenter and electrician.  Made friends everywhere that he goes because of his outgoing personality and infectious smile.  He loved to make people laugh!  This was my brother-in-law, he is gone too soon.

Emma B. Miller (1923-1982):  Wife, mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, best friend.  Degreed Registered Nurse (Industrial nursing, High School nurse, Psychriatric nursing, Surgical nursing, Lead Floor Nurse), Graduate of Cosmatology School (owner of her own salon from 1950's to 1980); Hero...I saw her rush to save a baby's life at a resturant when the mother couldn't stop the child from choking on food.  This was my Grandmother...I still dream about her because I miss her so much...she never met my husband or my children.

James Miller, Jr. (1923-1985):  Father, brother, uncle, best-friend.  Worked as Lead foreman at the same steel mill for over 30 years.  World War II veteran, loved big band jazz and his dogs (he took them everywhere with him to everyone's dismay---lol)!  He traveled around the world with his wife before he let alcohol destroy their marriage.  After divorce, my uncle lived a lonely life filled with daily drinking...we found him at home alone, lying on his sofa with his dog "Champ" a large German Sheppard sitting by his side...he had passed about 2 days before we found him.  This was my Great uncle on my Grandfather's side...we all loved Uncle Jimmy.


I had to write this blog in memorial to my loved ones who have passed on from illnesses due to Alcohol Addiction.  You don't call persons addicted to marijuana "Marijuana-holics" or people addicted to cocaine, methamphetamine, or any other drug "????-holics".  The term "Alcoholic" seems too acceptable to me. 

Consuming alcoholic beverages daily in large amounts can destroy the health of the person who uses this legalized drug, but it also causes harm to those who love them up close (especially children and spouses).  Please read the article written by me that is linked to this post.  Afterwards, feel free to leave your comments about your experience with this problem that causes dysfunction in many people's lives. 

Our recent loss has caused my family to consider the damage that drinking alcohol has done to our lives...the emptiness left in your heart from missing your loved ones is not a hole that can be filled.

God bless you and your family.

Kimberly

http://www.docstoc.com/docs/77021130/Family-Concerns-about-the-Alcohol-Addicted-Relative


Friday, April 1, 2011

Beginning a Family Conflict Forum

Good Day Everyone,

I am a women who has many titles:
  1. I have been a wife for 28 years.
  2. I have been a mother for 26 years (a daughter 26 yrs old, a daughter 21 yrs old, and a son 17 yrs old).
  3. I have been a step-mother for 29 yrs. ( a daughter, 29 yrs old).
  4. I have been a Granny/Nana for 10 years (Jaylah, 10 yrs old & Jersey, 1 1/2 yrs old from my 29 yr old; Cortez "Tre", 2 1/2 yrs old from my 21 yr old.; and Khyan, 2 yrs old from my 26 yr old).
  5. I am a sibling (1 sister, Candace) and an auntie (Joshua, 8 yrs. old and Blake, 5 yrs old).
  6. And I am a daughter. 
I am like many of you who has experienced good and bad in all of these relationships, perfection of life is still a mystery for me.  Is there such a thing as a perfect parent?  Is there such a thing as a perfect marriage or a perfect family?  I know that it takes a village to raise a child, but the village needs to be steadfast and ready to find resolutions for problems that all families may have.

I am writing this blog to begin a service project about forming healthy family relationships.  When you read my articles regarding conducted research studies, I am certain that they will sound familiar to some of you (none of our lives are perfect.)  Families have many formats, and I want to hear thoughts and opinions from you all.  Please feel free to comment after reading my posted articles.  You can use this blog as a sounding board for those problems that you don't want to talk about with the people you know (because some of your thoughts might be very personal.)

Let's discuss these problems and solutions for how we should handle these issues.  You are never alone, we are all trying to figure life out...let's do this together!

Single Mothers Must Stand Tall For Their Children-By Kimberly L Mason